I THOUGHT YOU LOVED ME

These three words “I love you” are very common and it has different meanings to different people; both to the speaker and the hearer. There are lots of motives behind that sentence both good and bad, the worst inclusive. "I love you" have been abused that it makes no meaning to many people that hear it these days. Why is that so? How will you know if someone really loves you as he or she professes? Someone said these days, snakes no longer hiss. Instead they say “how are you doing bro?" What does that imply? Some people that seem to care about you do not really do that in the true sense. They keep secrets but they tell you they are open, they lie to you, yet they can swear that they are telling the truth. They steal from you but they tell you, you are the one that is careless. They manipulate you into thinking they are the best for you and you cannot find anyone like them and so many other forms of deception.

Love in the true sense does not wish anyone bad but wishes the best. If someone that says “I love you” and cannot defend you when others have written you off when you are not there, that person does not love you. So many people are very good at pretense and eye service but one can be careful to tell. For those of us in relationship, sometimes we see the warning signs, but we choose to ignore it; a true character is very difficult to hide. It shows up unknowingly even if the person tries so hard to cover it up. Sometimes there are things our friends do that make us doubt when they say they love us because at the end of the day, it is not the words that count but the actions that follow such words. The Bible says; the devil comes to steal, to kill and to destroy. Love out of lust and deception destroys. Sometimes we are deceived based on our vulnerability; if we like to hear nice things without going deep to face the truth, anyone can come and say anything to us to sweep us off our feet and we will fall for it. we all have dreams, dreams of having the best guy or the best girl but sometimes we still go round the same circle of having the same failure because we have not discovered ourselves, to know our strength and overcome our weaknesses, that is why we become the pawn used to get the queen, we become the stepping stones for others to succeed instead of us succeeding. We help others achieve their dreams, instead of achieving ours. That is not God's plan for us. The Bible says; "Do unto others as you want them to do unto you". If your friend cannot treat you well as he would treat himself, then he or she does not love you.