TIMING FOR A GREAT RELATIONSHIP

I noticed that relationship is very sweet to be in, most especially when the guy is asking the girl out and she feels like a princess, gives her conditions if she wants and takes charge

before saying yes to the guy; "I will think about it". Before I started dating my ex, we were close friends as I thought. He was really nice at that time. When he asked me out, I felt like I was in charge; this sense of feeling special. All I could think of was the happiness his company would give me, the things we will do together, the experiences we would share together, and the opportunity of a better closure since we were already friends. I placed all my happiness on being with him because I saw him as someone that could make me happy. I could not handle being alone.

Considering the way he was treating me so well as a friend, I did not want to lose the opportunity of taking it to another level; but I was wrong.

Everything turned sour. I later understood better, not to depend on anyone for happiness, not to commit my life to someone most especially someone who is not a child of God even if the person gave me the world. No matter how the person cares for you or how the person "loves" you as you may see it, the relationship will not survive the test of time unless God is involved it. The level of frustrations and heartache I experienced was far worse than the level of happiness I had. It was like love turned hate. Everything was based on lust and selfish gains, not LOVE in true sense.

I realized that no matter what a guy or a girl does for you, it can never replace the ONE person that God wants for you. For every good thing I got, I paid the price of tears. And I asked myself "was it not better I stayed on my own instead of going through these pains"? I guess I could not resist the smiles from his tempting red lips, the way he looked into my eyes, and the charming words he used to sweep me off my feet...I got so carried away, thinking that if I lost that opportunity, I don't know if I would get someone as charming as him, as eloquent and smooth as him; and for the second time, I was wrong.

The body of a serpent is very smooth but the inside is poisonous. Do not rush into relationships for the wrong reasons. Go into it for the right reasons. Not because you are lonely but because you are ready. When you are ready, you are strong. You don't need anyone to give you happiness because you can find happiness in yourself and in God.

Someone said the best time to enter a relationship is when you actually don't need it.